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The 7 habits of highly effective
people
Paradigm
The way we perceive,
understand and interpret the world. It is a mantel
map.
Habit
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Habit is the intersection of knowledge,
skill and desire
-Knowledge is the
theoretical paradigm, the
what
to do and the
why
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-Skill is
the
how
to do
-Desire is the motivation,
the
want
to do
Habit 1, Be Proactive
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Proactivity
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Human
beings, we are responsible for our own lives.
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Highly proactive people
1.
Accepting
responsibility
according
their
own
behavior.
Don’t
blame
circumstances,
conditions or conditioning for their own
behavior..
2.
Proactive
people
driven
by
values
–
carefully
thought
about,
selected
and
internalized.
3.
Focus their efforts in the circle of
influence.
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*Example (reactive people VS proactive
people)
Reactive people
are
often affected by their physical environment. If
the weather is
good, they feel good. If
it isn
’
t, it affects their
attitude and their performance.
Proactive
people
can carry their own weather with
them.
Reactive
people
drive by feelings
Proactive people
drive by values
Reactive people
focus on
negative energy reduce the circle of influence
Proactive
people
focus on positive energy
enlarges the circle of influence
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How to be
proactive
Make small commitments and
keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model,
not a
critic. Be part of the solution,
not part of the problem.
Habit 2, Begin with the ending mind
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Begin with the
ending mind
-To
start with a clear understanding of your
destination
-To know where
you’re
going so that you
better understand where you are now and
so that the steps you take are always
the right direction.
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Principle of
begin with the ending mind
-All things
are created twice. There
’
s a
mental or first creation or second creation to
all things.
*Example:
Parenting.
If you want to rise
responsible, self- disciplined children, you have
to keep that
end clearly in mind as you
interact with your children on a daily basis. You
cannot
behave toward them in ways that
undermine their self-discipline.
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How to begin
with ending mind
-Chose a
life center
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-Develop a personal mission statement
or philosophy or creed.
Two
ways to tap the right brain
Expand perspective
Visualization and affirmation
Habit 3, Put first things
first
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Two
factors that define an activity are urgent and
important.
-Urgent: It requires immediate
attention.
Urgent things
act on us. (Eg. A ringing phone)
Urgent
matters are usually visible
Urgent
often are unimportant
-Importance: has to do with result
It contributes to your mission, your
values, and your high priority goals
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Time management
matrix
-Quadrant I: Both urgent and
important
It
deals with significant results that require
immediate attention.
-Quadrant
III
&IV:
Things
are not
important, but
urgent.
Things
are
neither
important
nor urgent.
Effective
people stay out of Quadrants III and IV
-Quadrant II: things are not urgent,
but are important
It’s the
heart of effective
personal management
*Example: building relationship, long-
range planning, exercising, preparation
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Becoming a Quadrant II self-manager:
Indentifying roles
Selecting goals
Scheduling
Daily adapting
Habit 4, Think Win/Win
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Win/Win:
Win/Win is not a technique;
it’s a
total philosophy of
human interaction
Win/Win is a frame of
mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual
benefit in all
human interactions.
Win/Win is a belief in The
Third Alternative.
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No deal:
If
we
can
’
t
find
a
solution
that
would
benefit
us
both,
we
are
agree
to
disagree
agreeably.
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Characters of Win/Win:
Integrity
Maturity
Abundance mentality
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How to be
Win/Win
1.
See
the problem from the other point of view
2.
Identify the
key issues and concerns involved