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爱情，
是人类永恒的话题。
爱情，
指的是一对男女基于一定的社会基础和共
同的生活理想，
在各自内心形成的相互倾慕，
并渴望对方成为自己终身伴侣的一
种强烈、纯真、专一的感情。其中，性爱、理想、责任是构成爱情的三个基本要
素。
爱情不仅是个人行为，更涉及社会层面。爱情与人生密不可分，相互联系，
是有机的统一
整体。
恋爱已成为当代大学生普遍的现象
,.
近年来，传统的大学生恋爱观不断受到
着各种因素的冲
击，
形成了新的恋爱观念。
从执子之手中可以看出当代大学生的
恋爱观具有以下特点：
Love
is the eternal topic of human. Love, refers to
that a man and a woman who
have the
same ideal of life have a strong admiration for
each other based on certain
social base
.
Love has become a common phenomenon
among contemporary college students,
in
recent years, the traditional University Student
Love constantly under the impact of
various factors, and formed a new
concept of love. From the hands of the Executive
sub-love
view
of
contemporary
college
students
can
be
seen
with
the
following
features:
< br>1
、恋爱过程简单化。当代大学生的恋爱是简单的、快速的。社会在快节奏
的生活，大学生的恋爱也开始简单化，从思想上没有了以前固有的
“<
/p>
审时度势
”
，
恋
爱观简单了起来。
男生们已经不喜欢欲言又止，
欲进又退的恋爱
花招，
他们想
爱就爱、想恨就恨，嘴上不明说，行为却很直接，
遇到心仪的女孩，他们就会很
快表示自己的爱意，追求的手段也由以前的
“
飞鸽传书
”
到现在的电话、
短信、网
络。女孩子们也没有了以前的
“
矜持
”
，当感觉还可以的时候，便开始了恋情。
1, love the process
of simplification. Contemporary college students
love is
simple, fast. In the fast-paced
life of the community, college students have begun
to
love
simplistic,
ideologically
no
previous
inherent
situation
comes
to
love simple up. The boys
do not like to have paused, want to retreat into
love and
tricks they want to love to
love, to hate hate, lips unknown that acts very
direct
encounter looking girl, they
will soon to express their love, but also the
means to
pursue
the
previous
Messenger
to
the
present
telephone,
text
messaging,
network.
The
girls
have
no
previous
when
you
can
feel
when
the
affair began.
恋爱过程片面化。当代大学生谈恋爱时，往往考虑的问题都比
较片面，
只考虑两个人在一起时的事情，如何让彼此的感情得到升华，而没有考虑到
家庭、社会、周围事物的影响。往往在乎爱情的过程而不考虑结果，把爱情
< br>与婚姻相脱离。在一时的冲动下，不顾及后果和影响。想法的片面性，表现
出当代
大学生思想上的不成熟、做事不计较后果的心态。
2
、
Love
one-sided
process.
When
contemporary
college
students
fall
in
love,
problems are often considered one-
sided, considering only two things together, how
to
make
each
other's
feelings
and
soul,
without
taking
into
account
the
family,
social
impact, things around. Often care about
love, regardless of the results of the process,
the phase out of love and marriage.
Under the impulse to ignore the consequences and
effects. The idea of one-sidedness,
showing contemporary college students ideological
immaturity, things do not care about
the consequences of mind.
3
、
恋爱过程浪漫化。当代大学生恋爱更多注重的是感情上的愉悦，追求现
实的快乐感，
在两个人交往期间，
往往把每个节日排成了时刻表，
互相送礼物是
稀疏平常的事情，
在校园里，
经常看到男生跪拜在女友的前边，
红色的鲜花数量
及求爱的方式让人触目惊心，
在情人节及恋人生日的时候则是劳师动众的大摆宴
席、
精心准备让对方感觉到惊喜。
但在浪漫的同
时，
恋人对爱情的成功却并不看
重，甚至认为恋爱和结婚是两码
事。
3,Love
romanticize
the
process.
Contemporary
college
students
love
more
attention is emotional pleasure, the
pursuit of happiness a reality, in a period of
two people, tend to line up a schedule
for each festival, send each other gifts are
sparse usual thing on campus, often see
the boys kneel in front of his girlfriend,
the
number
of
red
flowers
and
courtship
shocking,
when
Valentine's
Day
and
lovers
birthday is so much effort in a large banquet,
carefully prepared to allow
the other
side to feel surprise. But at the same time
romantic, lovers of love, but
success
is not valued, or even that love and marriage are
two different things.
4
、恋爱过程
理想化。当代大学生在其心里总有一种理想的恋爱模式，在思
想上表现出理想化，
在恋爱上按照自己的理想模式去寻找对象，
在交往的过程中
也按照自己的理想模式去进行交往，
如果有一点与自己的模式不想符合，<
/p>
恋爱就
即将失败，
在交往和寻求对象的过
程中，
有许多实际的因素，
但由于当代大学生
< br>的恋爱观不成熟，
过于理想化，
则忽视了实际的现实情况
，
最终导致不符合实际
的恋爱。
4,
Love the process
of idealization. Contemporary
college students
always
have an ideal in their hearts love
pattern, showing idealized ideologically, in love
according to their own ideal model to
find objects in the process of interaction is
also in accordance with their ideal
model to conduct exchanges, if there some do
not
want
to
comply
with
their
own
models,
it
is
about
to
fail
in
love,
in
a
relationship
and seek objects in the process, there are many
practical factors, but
due
to
the
immaturity
of
contemporary
college
students
comes
to
love,
too
idealistic, then ignore
the actual reality of the situation, eventually
leading to not
match the actual love.
二、当代大学生恋爱存在的问题
Problems of contemporary college
students love
1
、因为空虚而爱。大学生在高
中紧张的学习之后，进入了一个全新的环境
里，
进入了自己梦寐
以求的高等学府，
失去奋斗目标和前进动力，
新的理想尚未
建立，出现了理想真空地带，表现出混日子、得过且过，于是将心理转到谈情说
爱上，以消磨时光，寻求快乐。
1, because the emptiness of love. After
high school students in the intense study
into a new environment, into their
dream of higher learning, loss goals and forward
momentum,
new
ideal
has
not
been
established,
there
has
been
an
ideal
vacuum,
showing dawdle, and just so the
psychological romance go on to spend time seeking
happiness.
2
、择偶动机不纯。当代大学生在选择对象的时候，往往考虑的不是对方适
不适合自己，
是不是为了真正的爱情，
而更多考虑的是能不能在
学习期间、
生活
上、将来的就业和发展上有帮助。如果发现有利
用价值，就会采取一切措施，进
行攻击，
为达目的不择手段。<
/p>
同时有的大学生也利用自己家庭和社会的地位去寻
找爱情，有的大
学生甚至同时与多个异性进行交往。
2, mate
motives. Contemporary college students select an
object, it is often not
considered
suitable to their own party is not for true love,
but more can be considered
during the
study, life, there is help on the future
employment and development. If it is
found to be of value, it will take all
measures to carry out attacks, ends justify means.
While some students also use their
status in the family and society, to find love,
some
students even simultaneously with
multiple heterosexual contacts.
3
、好奇心较重。当代大学生正处于
青春期后期，生理机能基本成熟，心理
机能趋于成熟，精力充沛，渴望与异性交往。在中
学时学习压力较大，未充分显
示出来，
现在主体意识发展了，<
/p>
个体发展必然会在个人生活中得以体现，
对异性
< br>的渴望使之在心理上产生了好奇，
想试一试探究异性之间的秘密，
在恋爱观上表
现出不负责任的态度，
仅仅停留在爱情的
表层的好奇与渴望，
没有想到恋爱之后
的后果和将来的发展。<
/p>
3
,
curiosity
heavier.
Contemporary
college
students
are
in
late
adolescence
,
physiology ripe, mature
psychological functioning , energetic , eager to
work with the
opposite sex . Greater
pressure in high school to learn , not fully
displayed, and now
the
development
of
consciousness
,
individual
development
will
inevitably
be
reflected
in
their
personal
lives
,
the
desire
for
the
opposite
sex
to
make
it
in
a
psychologically
curious
to
try
to
explore
the
opposite
sex
secret
between
the
love
view
showing
an
irresponsible
attitude
of
curiosity
and
desire
to
just
stay
in
the
surface
layer
of
love,
do
not
think
of
the
consequences
of
love
and
future
development after .
4
、不注重恋爱的后果。当代大学生的心里大多数都存在着这样的想法，两
个人在
一起一天开心就好，
“
只在乎曾经拥有，不在乎天长地久
”
，很多青少年带
着这样的心理与异性进行交
往，把恋爱当成
“
爱的初体验
”
和
“
充实大学的生活
”
，
而不是为了将来的婚姻和组建家庭，两个人在一起想的是如
何浪漫的度过每一
天，所以
“
毕业那天
一起分手
”
成为正常现象，但双方也表现出极为平静，这就是<
/p>
大学生的一种新型的恋爱观，
在乎爱的过程，
轻视爱的结局，
从而体现了当代大
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