bricks人生不只是要快乐(TED中英文对照)

第一大支柱便是：

归属感。

归属感来源于人际关 系中你的内在价值在

哪里，

以及同时你对别人的价值认可。

但某些组织和人际关系给予廉

价的归属感；

你的价值在于你的信仰，

在于你讨厌谁，

而不是你是谁。

真正的归属感来源于爱。

它时时刻刻都萦绕在你身边，

这是个选择—

—你可以选择跟谁培养归属感。

03:25

Here's an example. Each morning, my friend Jonathan buys a newspaper

from

the

same

street

vendor

in

New

York.

They

don't

just

conduct

a

transaction, though. They take a moment to slow down, talk, and treat

each

other

like

humans.

But

one

time,

Jonathan

didn't

have

the

right

change,

and

the

vendor

said,

worry

about

it.

But

Jonathan

insisted

on

paying,

so

he

went

to

the

store

and

bought

something

he

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didn't need to make change. But when he gave the money to the vendor,

the vendor drew back. He was hurt. He was trying to do something kind,

but Jonathan had rejected him.

举一个例子。

我的朋友乔纳森每天都在纽约同一家小店里买报纸。

他

和店主不止是商业交易。

他们会花点时间聊聊天，

很亲切地对待 对方。

有一次乔纳森没有零钱，店主就说，

“没事，不用付了” 但乔纳森坚

持付钱，

为了换零钱他去店里买了些他不用的东西。

当他把钱给店主

的时候，店主拒绝了。他心里很受伤。他本想慷 慨对人，但乔纳森拒

绝了他的好意。

04:07

I think we all reject people in small ways like this without realizing it. I do.

I'll walk by someone I know and barely acknowledge them. I'll check my

phone when someone's talking to me. These acts devalue others. They

make them feel invisible and unworthy. But when you lead with love, you

create a bond that lifts each of you up.

我想我们都会在无意中伤害他人。

我也如此。

我 有时撞见我认识的人

却没打招呼。

有时候我在别人和我说话时看 手机。

这种做法贬低了他

人。让他们觉得自己没有存在感和价值 。但当你用爱联系他人，你建

立的纽带就激励了你们双方。

04:30

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For

many

people,

belonging

is

the

most

essential

source

of

meaning,

those bonds to family and friends. For others, the key to meaning is the

second pillar: purpose. Now, finding your purpose is not the same thing

as finding that job that makes you happy. Purpose is less about what you

want

than

about

what

you

give.

A

hospital

custodian

told

me

her

purpose

is

healing

sick

people.

Many

parents

tell

me,

purpose

is

raising my children.

others.

Of

course,

for

many

of

us,

that

happens

through

work.

That's

how we contribute and feel needed. But that also means that issues like

disengagement at work, unemployment, low labor force participation

--

these

aren't

just

economic

problems,

they're

existential

ones,

too.

Without

something

worthwhile

to

do,

people

flounder.

Of

course,

you

don't have to find purpose at work, but purpose gives you something to

live for, some

对很多人来说，

归属感是人生意义的最重要来源，

那些与家人和朋友

的纽带。 而对其他人而言，

意义的关键来源的第二大支柱是：人生目

的。

找到人生目的和找到让你快乐的工作不一样。

人生目的并不在于

你所得而在于你所给。

一位医院的管理员说他的人生目的就是治 愈病

患。很多家长会说人生目的是“养育自己的孩子”

。人生目 的意味着

尽自己的能力去帮助他人。

当然对很多人来说，

我们通过工作来实现

人生目的。这是我们的贡献，也是感到被需要的方 式。但这也同时说

明工作中的疏离问题，

失业，

低劳动参与率——不仅是经济问题也是

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关乎生死存亡的问题。没 有值得做的事情，人们就会陷入困境。当然

不一定非得做份满足人生目的工作，

但目的给了你活着的意义，

这些

“为什么”能让 你坚持走下去。

05:36

The third pillar of meaning is also about stepping beyond yourself, but in

a

completely

different

way:

transcendence.

Transcendent

states

are

those rare moments when you're lifted above the hustle and bustle of

daily

life,

your

sense

of

self

fades

away,

and

you

feel

connected

to

a

higher

reality.

For

one

person

I

talked

to,

transcendence

came

from

seeing art. For another person, it was at church. For me, I'm a writer, and

it happens through writing. Sometimes I get so in the zone that I lose all

sense of time and place. These transcendent experiences can change you.

One study had students look up at 200

-

feet

-

ta ll eucalyptus trees for one

minute.

But

afterwards

they

felt

less

self

-

centered,

and

they

even

behaved more generously when given the chance to help someone.

第三大 支柱同样跟超越自我有关。但方式完全不一样，那就是超验。

超验的状态非常罕有，

那一刻你忘却了日常中的繁琐喧嚣，

进入忘我

的状态，

你感到自己与更高的真实世界相连。

我聊过的某个人 说他欣

赏艺术时便会进入超验状态。

另一个说进入教堂时会如此 。

对我来说，

作为作家，这会发生在我写作时。有时候我太投入 了，以致忘记时间

流逝，忘记身处何处。这些超验的体验能真的改变你。有个让学生们< /p>