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Lesson Ten
Text A
Getting the Most Out of Life
Try these time-tested tips for greater
success and happiness
By Alan Loy
McGinnis
American inventor Thomas
Edison’s manufacturing facilities in New Jersey
were
heavily damaged by fire one night
in December 1914. Edison lost almost $$ 1 million
worth of equipment and the record of
much of his work.
The next morning,
walking about the charred embers of his hopes and
dreams, the
67-year-
old
said, ―There is value in disaster. All our
mistakes are burned up. Now
we
can start anew.‖
Edison
understood
a
great
principle
of
living
almost
any
situatio
n
—
good
or
bad
—
is
affected
by
the
attitude
we
bring
to
it.
Tough-
minded
optimists
approach
problems
with
a
can-do
philosophy
and
emerge
stronger
from
tragedies.
Indeed,
recent studies suggest that upbeat
people earn more money, do better in
school, are
healthier and
perhaps even live longer than pessimists.
As a psychotherapist, I’ve studied what
motivates optimists, analyzing the lives
of several hundred people over the
years. While many suffered crushing setbacks, all
learned techniques for defeating
dejection and keeping their enthusiasm high during
difficult periods. I believe that if
you, too, adopt these time-tested ideas, you will
get
more from life.
Rehearse
success
. Optimists always picture
themselves accomplishing their goals.
I
once asked a world-class marksman about the
qualities that make for success in that
sport. ―The secret is mental
conditioning,‖ he replied. ―Every day, I play a
movie in
my head in which I
se
e myself shooting a perfect
score.‖
One
corporate
president
started
his
sales
career
by
selling
pots
and
pans
door-to-door. The first day he made
only one sale in 40 attempts. But he never forgot
the face of the woman who finally
bought something
—
how it
changed from suspicion
to interest to
acceptance. For years he would recall her face as
a talisman whenever
the going was
rough.
Find opportunity in
failure
. One day years ago, literature
agent Mike Somdal and
I made what I
thought was a superb proposal to an editor, but it
was rejected on the
spot. Walking back
to our hotel, I was discouraged, but not Mike.
―This is when selling gets fun!‖ he
exclaimed. ―We’ll go back and appeal to their
needs,
and
they’ll
beg
to
buy
from
us.
All
we
have
to
do
is
figure
out
the
right
approach!‖
What I regarded as failure, Mike saw
merely as a setback. He seemed charged by
the
challenge.
Eventually,
a
new
approach
was
successful,
and
we
negotiated
a
contract with the very publisher who
had turned us away.
For their book
Leaders
, Warren Bennis and
Burt Nanus interviewed people in top
leadership
positions.
A
striking
characteristic
distinguished
them
form
the
general
population. ―They
don’t think about failure,‖ the authors observe.
―They don’t even
use the word, relying
instead on such synonyms as mistake, glitch, false
start, mess
and error. But never
failure.‖
Focus on the
possible
. Some people blame everything
on circumstance, ―Nobody
could succeed
with the financial problems I have‖ ( ―the husband
I have,‖ ―the boss I
have‖
—
the
variations
are
endless).
What
they
think
they
are
actually
saying
is
that
they are powerless to change their
world. Of course, if you believe you are
impotent
,
you
make
yourself
so.
These
people
need
to
discover
that
their
actions
can
make
a
difference.
The
darkest days for
19
th
-century English author
Thomas Carlyle began when a
maid
mistakenly used the only copy of his manuscript to
start a fire. Carlyle sank into
deep
despair.
Then,
gradually,
word
by
word,
sentence
by
sentence,
he
began
to
rewrite
The French Revolution
, which
endures as a classic.
Take a
break
. Some time ago I found myself
writing too many articles, giving too
many speeches, seeing too many patients
and not doing anything well. So I went on
leave.
I
took
all-day
walk,
planted
trees,
built
cabinet,
and
spent
time
with
my
grandson.
After a few months my cholesterol was
down 100 points, my blood pressure 30. I
felt good for the first time in years.
Most of us can take short sabbaticals
two or three days
—
in which
we alter our
routine.
Perh
aps
you
can’t
control
your
job,
but
you
may
be
able
to
make
other
changes in
your life, like taking
a
class,
establishing
a
special family
night,
getting
acquainted with new
people or starting an exercise program.
Help others
. A clergyman was
consulted by a widow who was feeling sorry for
herself because she’d be alone on an
upcoming holiday. The pastor said, ―I’m going to
give
you
a
prescription,‖
and
proceeded
to
write
the
name
and
address
of
a
poor,
elderly
couple.
―These
people
are
a
lot
worse
off
than
you,‖
he
said
bluntly.
―Do
something for them.‖
The woman went away muttering, but the
next day she went to the address. There,
in
a
tiny
apartment,
she
found
the
couple.
They
were
fragile
and
barely
able
to
fix
meals for
each other. So she arranged to cook their holiday
dinner. When she saw the
clergyman
the
following
week,
she
had
new
bounce
in
her
step.
―It
was
the
best
holiday I’ve had in years,‖ she told
him.
Helen
Keller,
the
American
author
and
lecturer
who
was
deaf
and
blind
from
infancy, once remar
ked, ―I
find life an exciting
business
—
and most exciting
when it
is lived for
others.‖
Count your
blessings
. A disheartened young law
student once consulted me. He
had
failed the bar examination for the second time,
was out of money and felt there
was
nothing to live for.
I took
out a pad and asked him a few questions. ―Are
you married?‖ ―Yes. My
wife’s been terrific through this whole
ordeal, though I don’t know why she stays with
me.‖
―Any
medical
problems?‖
―No.
I
have
a
strong
constitution.
Played
spor
ts
in
university.‖ ―You seem ambitious.‖
―Yeah,‖ he said. ―I have a lot of ambition. That’s
what made me successful in school
sports, even though I was small.‖
I tore off the page
and
handed it to
him.
I’d written: 1) Wife loves him;
won’t
give up on him. 2)
Heath excellent. 3)
Ambitious
—
helps him to
succeed in spite of
obstacles.
He
stared
at
the
list
and
then
said,
―That’s
amazing.
I
guess
I
was
so
obsessed
with failing the exam that I couldn’t
see any hope.‖
That young
man did finally pass his bar
exam
—
on his fifth
try
—
and today he’s a
successful lawyer.
In his
book
Man’
s search for
Meaning
, Dr. Viktor Frankl
wrote about
his
three
years
in
Nazi
concentration
camps.
Even
in
that
extreme
situation,
Frankl
recalled,
there were ―men
who walked through the hu
ts comforting
others, giving away their
last
piece
of
bread.
They
may
have
been
few
in
number,
but
they
offer
proof
that
everything can be taken from a man but
one thing: the freedom to choose his attitude
in any given set of
circumstance.‖
Similar
choices await us. We can opt for the pessimistic
view of this world, or we
can
stubbornly believe that the best is yet to come.
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From
Reader’
s Digest
New words & Expressions
char
v.
烧焦
ember
n. (embers)
灰烬
,
余烬
anew
adv.
重新,再
upbeat
adj.
乐观的
dejection
n.
沮丧
marksman
n.
神射手
talisman
n.
护身符
glitch
n.
小故障
cholesterol
n.
胆固醇
sabbatical
adj. (also
Sabbatic)
安息日的
,
似安息日的
pastor
n.
牧师
prescription
n.
处方
bluntly
adv.
坦率地
fragile
adj.
虚弱的,脆弱的
bounce
n.
精力;活力
dishearten
v.
使
...
气馁
,
使
...
沮丧
,
使
...
失去勇气
ordeal
n.
严酷的考验
,
痛苦的经验
,
折磨
constitution
n.
体格
opt
v.
选择
worse off
劣等的,差的
bar
examination
律师资格考试
Notes
1.
Alan
Loy
McGinnis
(1933
-
2005)
An
author,
Christian
psychotherapist,
and
founder and director of
the Valley Counseling Center in Glendale,
California, United
States. Today there
are over 3 million copies of his books in print.
His 1979 book
The
Friendship
Factor
has sold over 1,000,000 copies
and his 1985 book
Bringing Out the
Best in People
sold over
600,000 copies. His books have been translated
into over 14
languages.
His
books
are
characterized
by
a
clear
writing
style
using
simple,
short
sentences. He was a family therapist,
corporate consultant, and speaker to television,
radio, and corporate audiences
2.
Thomas
Carlyle
(1795
–
1881)
Scottish-born
British
historian
and
essayist
who
was
leading figure in the Victorian era. Carlyle's
collected works (1974) comprises 30
volumes. His famous work
The
French Revolution
established his
literary reputation
as a great
writer.
3. Viktor Frankl
(1905- 1997) An Austrian neurologist
and psychiatrist as well as a
Holocaust
survivor.
Frankl
was
the
founder
of
logotherapy,
which
is
a
form
of
Existential Analysis, the
book,
Man's
Search
for
Meaning
(published
under
a
different
title
in
1959:
From
Death-Camp to
Existentialism
, and originally
published in 1946 as
trotzdem Ja zum
Leben
sagen:
Ein
Psychologe
erlebt
das
Konzentrationslager
),
chronicles
his
experiences
as
a
concentration
camp
inmate
and
describes
his
psychotherapeutic
method of
finding meaning in all forms of existence, even
the most sordid ones, and
thus
a
reason
to
continue
living.
Frankl
was
one
of
the
key
figures
in
existential
therapy and a
prominent source of inspiration for humanistic
psychologists.
Exercises
I.
Reading comprehension
1.
What does the Edison’s story tell
us?
A. Don’t cry for the
spilled milk.
B. It is quite
usual to meet setbacks in our life.
C.
We can start a new life as long as what we have
has been destroyed.
D.
The
most
important
life
meaning
is
that
our
attitude
has
great
influence
on
almost any situation no matter it is
good or bad.
2. Why did the corporate
president always recall the woman’s face for
years?
A. He appreciated her
for buying pots and pans from him.
B.
She was very kind, so he missed her very much
C. He could not forget the woman’s
face, for which was quite changeable.
woman’s
face
always
reminded
him
of
the
success
he
had
achieved
and
encouraged him mentally.
3.
What does the word ―impotent‖ mean in Paragraph
11?
A. lack power or
ability;
B. lack physical strength;
C. capable
D. powerful
4. Which of the following is
Not
true according to the
article?
A. We can be successful if we
play a movie everyday.
B. We can get
success from failure.
C.
We
should
pay
attention
to
the
possible
instead
of
blaming
everything
on
circumstances.
D. Taking a
rest properly is one of the good ways for dealing
with setbacks.
5. The followings are
all
Not
the
implied meaning in ―
Count your
blessings
‖
Except
_______
A. People will be
happy if they content with their lot.
B. One can achieve success with right
attitude.
C. One can be successful with
a beloved wife.
D. Good health and
ambition are the two preconditions for success.
6.
What
is
the
author’s
attitude
towards
what
Dr.
Vikto
r
Frankl
mentioned
his
opinions about the life in Nazi
concentration camps?
A. Indifferent
B.
Antagonistic
C. Supportive
D.
Neutral
7. From the article, it can be
learned that _______
A. People are easy
to be pessimistic while facing failure.
B. Everyone can be successful as long
as making efforts.
C. The most
important thing in our life it to be optimistic.
D. The great principle of
living is that almost any situation in our life is
affected by
our attitude.
8.
The
followings
are
all
the
author
recommended
time-tested
opinions
for
people
who
suffered setbacks
Except
_______
A.
People can benefit from having a rest and helping
others.
B. It is helpful to talk with
your friends.
C. People can take
actions to find ways instead of blaming everyone
and everything
but not oneself.
D. Failure is the mother of success.
People can find chances in failure.
ation
1. As a
psychotherapist, I’ve studied what motivates
optim
ists, analyzing the lives of
several
hundred
people
over
the
years.
While
many
suffered
crushing
setbacks,
all
learned techniques for defeating
dejection and keeping their enthusiasm high during
difficult periods. I believe that if
you, too, adopt these time-tested ideas, you will
get
more from life.
2.
Ready or not, some day it
will all come to an end. There will be no more
sunrises,
no
days,
no
hours
or
minutes.
All
the
things
you
collected,
whether
treasured
or
forgotten,
will
pass
to
someone
else.
Your
wealth,
fame
and
temporal
power
will
shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were
owed. Your
grudges, resentments,
frustrations, and jealousies will finally
disappear. So, too, your
hopes,
ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will all expire.
The wins and losses that once
seemed so
important will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from, or
on what side of the tracks you lived. It
won't matter whether you were beautiful
or brilliant. Your gender, skin color, ethnicity
will be irrelevant. So what will
matter? How will the value of your days be
measured?
What will matter
is not what you bought, but what you built; not
what you got, but
what you gave. What
will matter is not your success, but your
significance. What will
matter is not
what you learned, but what you taught. What will
matter is every act of
integrity,
compassion, courage and sacrifice that enriched,
empowered or encouraged
others to
emulate your example. What will matter is not your
competence, but your
character. What
will matter is not how many people you knew, but
how many will feel
a
lasting
loss
when
you're
gone.
What
will
matter
is
not
your
memories,
but
the
memories
of
those
who
loved
you.
What
will
matter
is
how
long
you
will
be
remembered, by whom and for what.
Living
a
life
that
matters
doesn't
happen
by
accident.
It's
not
a
matter
of
circumstance but of
choice. Choose to live a life that matters.
for Oral Discussion
It is inevitable to face failure in our
life: failing in examinations, making mistakes in
working, divorcing, etc. Some people
are totally discouraged, and some even commit
suicide. How will you face all the
failures in your life?
Text B
Philosophy of Life
Two Truths to Live By
By
Alexander M. Schindler
Hold fast, and
let go: understand this paradox, and you stand at
the very gate of
wisdom.
The
art of living is to know when to hold fast and
when to let go. For life is a
paradox:
it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts
even while it ordains their eventual
relinquishment. The
rabbis
of old put it this way: ―A man come to this world
with his
fist clenched, but when he
dies, his hand is open.‖
Surely we ought to hold fast to life,
for it is wondrous, and full of a beauty that
breaks through every pore of God’s own
earth. We know
that this
is so, but
all too
often we recognize this truth only in
our backward glance when we remember what
was and then suddenly realize that it
is no more.
We remember a beauty that
faded, a love that waned. But we remember with far
greater
pain
that
we
did
not
see
that
beauty
when
if
flowered,
that
we
failed
to
respond with love when it
was tendered.
A recent experience re-
taught me this truth. I was hospitalized following
a severe
heart
attack
and
had
been
in
intensive
care
for
several
days.
It
was
not
a
pleasant
place.
One
morning,
I
had
to
have
some
additional
test.
The
required
machines
were
located in a building
at the opposite end of the hospital, so I had to
be wheeled across
the courtyard on a
gurney.
As
we
emerged
from
our
unit,
the
sunlight
hi
t
me.
That’s
all
there
was
to
my
experience. Just the
light of the sun. And yet how beautiful it was
—
how
warming,
how sparkling, how brilliant!
I looked to see whether anyone else
relished the Sun’s golden glow, but everyone
was hurrying to and fro, most with eyes
fixed on the ground. Then I remembered how
often
I, too,
had
been indifferent
to
the
grandeur of each day, too
preoccupied
with
pretty and sometimes even mean
concerns to respond to the splendor of it all.
The
insight
gleaned
from
that
experience
is
really
as
commonplace
as
was
the
experience itself: life’s gifts are
precious
—
but we are too
heedless of them.
Here then is the
first pole of life’s paradoxical demands on us:
Never too busy for
the wonder and the
awe of life. Be reverent before each dawning day.
Embrace each
hour. Seize golden minute.
Hold fast to life… but not so fast that
you cannot let go. This is the second side of
life’s coin, the opposite pole of its
paradox: we must accept our losses, and learn how
to let go.
This is not an
easy lesson to learn, especially when we are young
and think that
the
world
is
our
to
command,
that
whatever
we
desire
with
the
full
force
of
our
passionate being can,
nay, will, be ours. But then life moves along to
confront us with
realities, and slowly
but surely this second truth dawns upon us.
At every stage of life we sustain
losses
—
and grow in the
process. We begin our
independent lives
only when we emerge form the womb and lose its
protective shelter.
We
enter
a
progression
of
schools;
then
we
leave
our
mothers
and
fathers
and
our
childhood homes. We get
married and have children and then have to let
them go. We
confront
the
death
of
our
parents
and
our
spouses.
We
face
the
gradual
or
not
so
gradual
waning of our own strength. And ultimately, as the
parable of the open and
closed
hand
suggests,
we
must
confront
the
inevitability
of
our
own
demise,
losing
ourselves as it were,
all that we were or dreamed to be.
But
why should we be reconciled to life’s
contradictory demands? Why fashion
things of beauty when beauty is
evanescent? Why give our heart in love when those
we love will ultimately be torn from
our grasp?
In order to resolve this paradox, we
must seek a wider perspective, viewing our
lives as though our lies are finite;
our deeds on earth weave a timeless pattern.
Life is never just being. It is a
becoming, a relentless flowing on. Our parents
live
on
through
us,
and
we
will
live
on
through
our
children.
The
institutions
we
build
endure, and we will
endure through them. The beauty we fashion cannot
be dimmed
by death. Our flesh may
perish, our hands will wither, but that which they
create in
beauty and goodness and truth
lives on for all time to come.
Don’t
spend and waste your lives accumulating objects
that will only turn to dust
and ashes.
Pursue not
so much the material
as
the ideal,
for
ideals
alone
invest life
with meaning and are of enduring worth.
Add love to a house and you have a
home. Add righteousness to a city and you
have
a
community.
Add
truth
to
a
pile
of
red
bricks
and
you
have
a
school.
Add
religion
to
the
humblest
of
edifices
and
you
have
a
sanctuary.
Add
justice
to
the
far-flung round of human
endeavor and you have civilization. Put them all
together,
exalt
them
above
their
present
imperfections,
add
to
them
the
vision
of
humankind
redeemed,
forever
free
of
need
and
strife
and
you
have
a
future
lighted
with
the
radiant
colors of hope.
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New words
enjoin
v.
命令,吩咐:权威性地且强调性地发布施令
ordain
v.
注定
,
规定
relinquishment
n.
作罢
rabbis
n.
犹太学者
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