金融危机下的幸福公式：H=S+C+V 幸福指数

幸福的公式：

H=S+C+V

帮你提高幸福指数

In the past two weeks we have looked at the happiness formula defined by

positive psychologist Martin Seligman, where H (happiness) = S (your biological

set point for feeling happy) + C (the conditions of your life) + V (the voluntary

choices you make). Next, we'll look at the conditions in life that can improve our

happiness quotient.

Step 1: Peace and quiet

Jonathon Haidt in his excellent book, 'The Happiness Hypothesis', notes that

research shows that we can never completely adapt to new or chronic noise

pollution. Loud noises trigger one of our most primitive fear responses (the

other is the fear of falling) and we can never fully relax if we are surrounded by

intrusive noise. Noisy neighbours are one of the most emotive causes of

domestic upset for a very good reason. It is essential to have some peace and

quiet every day. If you are unfortunate enough to live somewhere noisy, persist

with complaining to your local council. Additionally, try wearing wax earplugs to

give you some respite. If you need your TV, radio or music up loud, wearing

headphones demonstrates altruism to your neighbours, which will make you

and them feel good.

Step 2: Relationships

This is the most important of all the external conditions that can improve your

happiness quotient. Often our deepest sources of unhappiness are found in poor

relationships with others. A colleague at work who bullies or dismisses us

creates untold wretchedness. A cruelly conflictual relationship with a partner or

lover leaves us feeling betrayed and abandoned. A relationship with our parents

or children which is not based on compassionate, unconditional regard creates

isolation and misery. We never fully adapt to hostile relationships, they

invidiously contaminate our wellbeing, squatting inside our minds as unresolved,

destructive ruminations. When faced with such relationships, the most positive

thing we can do is to either mend the relationship by confronting what is going

wrong or learn to move on.

Step 3: Share

If I have discovered conditions or choices in life that have significantly improved

my wellbeing, I would like to share them with you. Passing on what works is

essential to improve our own and the wellbeing of others.

过去两周我们研究了一 项幸福公式，这是由乐观心理学家马丁塞利格曼定义的。

H(

幸

福

)=S(

个人生理幸福感受的固定指 数

)+C(

个人生活状态

)+V(

个人主观选择

)

。

接下来我们

将着眼于能提升幸福指数的生活状态。

第一步：平和宁静

乔纳森海迪在他的 优秀著作《幸福假说》

当中提到，

研究调查显示，

我们不可能完全适应噪

音污染，无论是新近的还是长期的。巨大噪声会引起我 们某种面对恐惧本能反映

(

另一种是

对 于坠落的恐惧

)

，如果周遭噪音喧闹，我们不可能完全放松。这 样看来，吵闹的邻居的确

对我们家庭不和起到很大影响。

每日保 持平和宁静事关重要。

如果你的生活环境不幸比较吵，

请一定要 坚持去居委会投诉。另外，

试试实用耳塞，

可能会缓解噪声。如 果你一定要大声看

电视、听收音机放音乐的话，记得戴上耳机。别影响邻里，这样可以使 双方都感到舒适。

第二步：人际关系

这是增加幸福指数的一条至关重要的内部条件。

我们感到不快乐 的最深层原因，

往往就是人

际关系欠佳。

如果一个在职同事对我们表示威吓的话，

会造成难以言语的抑郁情绪。

与拍档

或者爱人的关系陷入残酷竞争之中，

会让我们感 到背叛和背弃。

与父母孩子之间的关系缺乏

同情心和无私关心，

那么这会造成隔阂生产痛苦。

我们不可能适应这种敌对关系，< /p>

这种不良

的人际关系会损害身心健康，长久留存在我们心里，会让 人陷入无以解决的恶性心理困境。

当我们面临这类问题时，最好的办法，就是直面难题， 挽救关系，或者学着继续前进。

第三步：分享

如果我发觉生活状态或 者做的某项决定对幸福生活有极大帮助的话，

我很想说出来同你们一

起分享。将有用的发现与更多人分享，这对增进自己的幸福和他人的幸福都有积极作用。

开心工作

换种方式看待工作

Did you ever think there was a better, different way to live? Did you ever think,

“Maybe I don’t have to go to a job and work 40+ hours a week, feel exhausted,

wish for more time for myself or my family, and wonder when the fun stuff

begins?” If so, get ready: your life’s about to change.

When I was a little girl, I woke up every morning with the sun. I opened my eyes,

heard birds chirping outside my window, and smiled, thinking about the

adventures of the coming day. Fast forward to my last corporate job, when I

woke up with the alarm clock, slammed my hand down on the snooze button

and laid in bed, a feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach, thinking about the

eight hours I was about to spend working under fluorescent lights, in a small

cubicle, so my boss could take credit for my work and someone else could profit.

Why do we do this to ourselves? When I look back on the time I spent in

Corporate America, I realize that I didn’t know any better. Despite the

entrepreneurial spirit I’ve felt through my entire life, there was a period of time

when it simply didn’t occur to me that my life belonged to me and I didn’t have

to live according to the narrow path that had been defined for me.

It took carpal tunnel syndrome and an inflexible corporate environment for me

to realize that I desperately needed a change. And that’s what

it took to remind

me of the philosophy my dad taught me as a little girl, something I’d long

forgotten: that work is what makes the rest of your life possible.

From this perspective, “work” takes on substantially less meaning, while “life”

takes center sta

ge. I like this because it reminds me where my priorities lie. I’d

much rather my tombstone read, “She truly lived,” than “She worked a lot.”

It’s easy to say “work makes the rest of my life possible,” but how does it look

in real life, and how do you put this into play in your own life? How it looks in real

life:

I wake up each morning, knowing that the day belongs to me. I have a schedule,

but I’m not beholden to a boss or supervisor who will dock my pay or fire me if

I decide the schedule doesn’t suit my

mood that day. One of my priorities is my

health and physical well-being, so most mornings I start my day off with a

workout at the gym. Since my day is my own, I can work out without rushing,

and that allows me to get to know the other members of my gym, which means

it’s a social event as well.

Then, depending on the day and what I’ve committed to, I may work with clients,

do some writing for my blog, e-

zine, the book I’m working on, or the other sites

I write for, or read one of the several books I’m int

o at any given moment. Aside

from scheduled meetings with clients and deadlines, I do what suits my mood

the best -

if I’m struggling for inspiration for my articles, I spend more time

reading. If I’m in the mood to bake bread with my husband, I do. And I’

ve

structured my businesses so that if I want to get on a plane and fly to South

America, England, or New Orleans for a weekend or a month, I can do it without

a second thought and my income doesn’t change a bit.

The point is, no day is completely consumed

by work, it’s all flexible, and

everything I do for “work” is something that I enjoy doing. If I don’t enjoy it, I

either don’t do it or I find someone who does and I outsource that work to them.

When I speak to groups, I’m often asked, “How many hours a

week do you

work?” Sure, just like Tim Ferriss, author of The 4

-Hour Workweek, some weeks

I only work four hours. But if I’m working on a book or one of my one

-on- one

clients is launching his/her business, I work at least forty. Those are the

extremes: most weeks I stay somewhere in the twenty to twenty five hour

range. But I can tell you this: I wake up with the sun and the birds chirping, just

like I did when I was a little girl. I always wake up smiling, and I love what I do.

But I’m not that different from you. I’m not overly lucky and nothing that special

has happened that made this possible for me. Virtually anyone can do this. So

how can you incorporate this into your own life?

The mindset comes first. You have to take responsibility for your life and know

that it is yours to live in whatever way that you want. Think this is easy? It’s not.

This can be one of the scariest things you’ll ever do. But as Seth Godin recently

wrote, “the riskiest thing you can do is play it safe.” So take a risk and believe

that your life belongs to you.

Second, figure out your priorities and your goals. What’s most important to you?

Are there things you want to do, places you want to see? Maybe you just want

more quality time with your family, or want more time to relax- th

at’s okay. The

point is to figure out what’s most important to you.

Third, design a business to suit your lifestyle goals. This is the most challenging

aspect of applying this philosophy, because it requires some extra knowledge-

what opportunities are out there, how to repurpose what you already know

and/or do, how to brand yourself and market your business. There is no

one- size-fits-all solution- a business model that works for one person may not

be suited to another. Your best bet, the easiest and fastest way to accomplish

this, is to work with someone who has successfully made the transition

themselves, who knows the opportunities out there, can help you figure out

what suits you best, help you put it all together and show you the ropes.

Finally, be prep

ared to work to get to the point of living the dream. I’m not going

to lie to you. It rarely happens overnight. Some of my clients have transitioned

into this lifestyle (what I call the “Business in Blue Jeans lifestyle”) within a

month or two, while others have taken a bit longer. Some of it depends on the

industry you’re in and some depends on what you’re willing to put into it and

how focused you are. Because the fact is, even though you aren’t working as

much or as hard as before, in this lifestyle, when you are working, you need to

be really focused.

Ultimately, the bottom line is that when you’re working for a life that you’ve

designed, when you love what you’re doing and when you know that you aren’t

just putting in the time, everything changes. Change the way you view work,

and you’ll completely change your life.

你是否想过有一种不同的生活方式会让你过得更好？