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我的新年计划
My New Year
Plan
英语美文
Do you have a big goal for the next
year
–
or perhaps
a
three-year or five-year plan? You
might have a whole bunch of
goals,
even
if
you
don't
call
them
that
–
perhaps
ranging
through
things
li
ke:
新的一年即将来临，你有什么伟大的计划没？
或是“三年
飞跃”
、
“五年计划”之类的规划？你可能有着一大箩筐的
目标等着实现，虽然你压根儿没有把它们当回事儿。
Lose
weight
减
肥
Make
lots
of
money
赚
钱
Get
a
promotion
升职
Study for a new
qualification
进修
Stop reading for a moment, and think
about some of the
goals that are
currently lodged in your mind
–
they might be
things
you've
told
yourself
you
do,
but
you've
not
made
much
progress on
them. You
may
want
to
write
them
down.
停！
想一想，<
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你现在脑子里忽闪而过的目标有哪些？这些目标
也许你到目前为止
还没什么进展可言，
但你始终这样告戒自己：
这些
都是我“应该”要去实现的目标。不妨把它们写下来看看吧。
Whose goals are
these?
这些目标究竟是谁的呀？
Perhaps
that
seems
like
a
stupid
question:
obviously,
they're your
goals ... aren't
they?
这么问也许听上去很可笑是吧？
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你的目标很明显是“你的”嘛！果真如此吗？
Unfortunately,
there's
a
fair
chance
that
some
of
goals
aren't
really
yours
at
all.
They
might
belong
to
your
parents, your friends, or even your
society as a whole.
很遗憾地
告诉你，事
实很可能是这样的：
“你的”有些雄心壮志并非出自你本
人的真
实意愿。它们或是来自你的父母、亲朋好友，或是源于社会大
环境对你的影响。
Here's how other people's goals
can become yours
–
and
why you want to take
control again.
以下就将告诉你别人的
“雄心<
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壮志”何以摇身一变成了你自己的，而你又为何心甘情愿地“被雄心
壮志”
。
1: Your
Parents' (or Family's) Goals
目标来源之一：你的父母
或家庭
Naturally
enough,
parents
often
have
big
hopes
and
dreams
for
their
kids.
They
may
have
struggled
through
hardship and made sacrifices in order
to support their children
–
and they might have ideas about what
constitutes a
career or a valuable life
.
父母通常总是望子成龙、望女成凤的，这
也不难理解。为了支
持自己的孩子上进，父母往往不辞辛苦，甚至不
惜作出牺牲，只求孩子有出息。在父母的
头脑中，也许早已为孩子勾
勒出了一幅事业成功、生活美满的理想蓝图。
Parents (or other relatives) may
impose goals by:
父母（或
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其他亲戚）可能通过以下这些方式把“人生目标”强加给孩子：
Insisting
that
a
particular
activity
isn't
worth
pursuing
because
no
money
in
it
–
perhaps
art,
writing
or
music<
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坚持认为诸如艺术、
写作、
音乐之类的职
业是不值得作为人生
目标去追求的，因为这类职业往往毫无“钱”途可言。
Focusing
on
certain
qualifications
and
career
paths
–
perhaps wanting
their children to become doctors or lawyers
锁定一些特定的具有专业发展的职业推荐给自己的孩子——例如，
父
母会希望孩子将来成为一名医生或律师。
Encouraging
a
particular
type
of
lifestyle
by
criticizing
behavior that
they consider
通过鄙视或批评一些他们认
为“
错误”的行为，进而推崇另一种他们认可的生活方式。
Talking
about
the
success
of
certain
family
members
in
terms
of career, wealth, marriage, etc...
大力赞扬
家族成员中那些
在事业、财富、婚姻等方面卓有成就的人。
How to Change: Spend some time digging
deep into your
own
goals.
What
do
you
really
want
for
yourself?
If
you're
pursuing a degree or
career that you dislike, don't be afraid to
change to something new. Your family
may well turn out to be
more supportive
than you expect.
应对攻略：
花一些时间，<
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深究一
下你真正想要实现的人生目标是什么。
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