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Why Men Are Becoming More Like Women
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作者：
kira86
In its recent special on the
state of American women,
Time magazine announced
that
the gender wars were
over and declared
a tie.
no longer a man's
world,
Time concluded.
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, with bylaws
under constant
negotiation
2
and
expectations that profits be equally
shared.
I'm not so sure. In a war, no matter
the outcome of a certain
skirmish
3
or
battle, the winner is the party whose
attitudes, behaviors and
preoccupations
4
come to dominate the postwar landscape.
By this measure, the outcome of the
gender wars, if wars they were, is
clear: Women won.
Men's attitudes more
and more resemble
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women's attitudes. In 1977, for
example, 72 percent of men believed men
should be the primary
breadwinners
6
and women should be the primary
caretakers
7
of
home and
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family. Today, only 42 percent of men
hold those opinions,which happens to
be
almost exactly the same as the percentage of women
who feel that way (38
percent).
Men's behaviors
are becoming more and more like women's. In 1977,
men
spent, on average, only six hours a
week doing housework, as compared to 21
hours for women. Today, when it comes
to the
like
women
—
men now spend 13 hours
a week on housework, while women
spend
17. Similarly, 40 years ago, the average Don
Draper spent only two
hours a day
caring for his kids, while the average Betty
devoted almost twice
that much time to
her kids
—
3.8 hours per day.
Today, Betty's kid time is
exactly the
same, while Don's has climbed to three hours per
day. Gen Y dads
have taken it up a
notch
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. They now spend more
than four hours a day on
childcare.
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change and new models of leadership. Gone are the
macho
monarchs
—
Jack
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In their place, we now honor a new style of
leader, no less
visionary
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, but
more pragmatic
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, more
conciliatory
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, building
consensus
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as they quietly get things
done
—
in the Oval Office,
Black Obama; at Hewlett
Packard, Mark
Hurd; at Disney HQ, Bob Eiger; and at the Welch
mansion, the
softer, friendlier
hybrid
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, JackandSuzy.
Even our
entertainment heroes have lost their masculine
muscle. Arnold,
Bruce and Stallone are
long gone from the screen, but even the flirty,
flaky,
funny
adolescents
—
Tom, Brad, Jim,
and Will
—
no longer charm us
quite as
much as they once did.
Instead, our leading men are the likes of Zac
Efron
who, though he can still
dance charmingly to earn our affection.
Or the dangerous but effete and
oh-so-
delicate Robert
Pattinson
of Twilight fame. Or the gender-bending,
pirate-styling and pretty Johnny Depp.
Even James Bond has found his
feminine
15
side
—
all he wants
is a quantum
16
of
solace
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, crushed as he is
at
the thought that the one he loved,
really truly loved, betrayed him.
The war is over. Women won.
And, as ever, to the victor go the
spoils
18
.
And
what are the spoils of this particular war?
The spoils are
choices. Women have more choices than ever before
in their
work, home and lifestyles. And
yes, men are becoming more like women, and
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女性的；妇女（似）的；阴性的；娇柔的；
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