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Insults
are
ineffective.
If
you
call
people
names,
then
they
are
unlikely
to
actually
listen
to what you have to say; in the short term you may
feel some relief at
off your
chest
are not addressing it. This is
common sense. There are two implications. Firstly,
even
under
pressure,
you
have
to
remember
this.
Secondly,
what
you
consider
fair
comment
may be insulting to
another
- and the same
problem emerges.
Before
you
say
anything
,
stop, establish what you want as the outcome, plan
how to achieve this,
and then speak.
Finally, if
you
are going to criticise or discipline someone,
always
assume that
you
have misunderstood the situation and
ask questions first which check the facts. This
simple courtesy will save you from much
embarrassment.
Seeking
Information
There are two ways of
phrasing any question: one way (the closed
question) is likely
to lead to a simple
grunt in reply (yes, no, maybe), the second way
(the open question)
will hand over the
speaking role to someone else and force them to
say something a
little more
informative.
Suppose you
conduct a review of a recently finished (?)
project with Gretchen and it
goes
something like this:
?
?
?
?
?
?
?
?
Before
your
fingers
start
twitching
to
place
themselves
around
Gretchen's
neck,
consider
that
your
questions
are
not
actually
helping
the
flow
of
information.
The
same flow of questions in an
open
format would be: what
is left to do of project X,
what about
the documentation, when will that be completely
finished? Try answering
Yes or No to
those questions.
Open
questions are extremely easy to formulate. You
establish in your own mind the
topic/aim of the question and then you
start the sentence with the words:
WHAT - WHEN - WHICH - WHY - WHERE -
HOW
Let others
speak
Of course, there is more to a
conversation (managed or otherwise) than the flow
of
information. You may also have to
win that information by winning the attention and
confidence of the other person. There
are many forms of flattery - the most effective
is to give people your interest. To get
Gretchen to give you all her knowledge, you
must
give
her
all
your
attention;
talk
to
her
about
her
view
on
the
subject.
Ask
questions: what do you
think about that idea, have you ever met this
problem before,
how would you tackle
this situation?
Silence is
effective - and much under-used. People are
nervous of silence and try to
fill it.
You can use this if you are seeking information.
You ask the question, you lean
back,
the
person
answers,
you
nod
and
smile,
you
keep
quiet,
and
the
person
continues with more detail simply to
fill your silence.
To
finish
At
the
end
of
a
conversation,
you
have
to
give
people
a
clear
understanding
of
the
outcome. For instance,
if there has been a decision, restate it clearly
(just to be sure)
in
terms
of
what
should
happen
and
by
when;
if
you
have
been
asking
questions,
summarize the
significant (for you) aspects of what you have
learnt.
MEETING MANAGEMENT
- PREPARATION
In any organization,
flow of information. They act as a
mechanism for gathering together resources from
many sources and pooling then towards a
common objective. They are disliked and
mocked because they are usually futile,
boring, time-wasting, dull, and inconvenient
with nothing for most people to do
except doodle while some opinionated
has-been
extols the virtues of his/her
last great (misunderstood) idea. Your challenge is
to break
this mould and to make your
meetings effective. As with every other managed
activity,
meetings
should
be
planned
beforehand,
monitored
during
for
effectiveness,
and
reviewed afterwards for improving their
management.
A
meeting
is
the
ultimate
form
of
managed
conversation;
as
a
manager,
you
can
organize
the
information
and
structure
of
the
meeting
to
support
the
effective
communication
of
the
participants.
Some
of
the
ideas
below
may
seem
a
little
too
precise
for
an
easy
going,
relaxed,
semi-informal
team
atmosphere
-
but
if
you
manage to gain a reputation for holding
decisive, effective meetings, then people will
value
this
efficiency
and
to
prepare
professionally
so
that
their
contribution
will
be
heard.
Should you cancel?
As with
all conversations,
you must
first ask:
is
it worth
your time?
If the meeting
involves
the
interchange
of
views
and
the
communication
of
the
current
status
of
related
projects, then you should be generous with your
time. But you should always
consider
canceling a meeting which has little tangible
value.
Who should attend?
You must be strict. A meeting loses its
effectiveness if too many people are involved:
so if someone has no useful function,
explain this and suggest that they do not come.
Notice,
they
may
disagree
with
your
assessment,
in
which
case
they
should
attend
(since
they
may
know
something
you
do
not);
however,
most
people
are
only
too
happy to
be released from yet another meeting.
How long?
It may seem
difficult to predict the length of a discussion -
but you must. Discussions
tend to fill
the available time which means that if the meeting
is open-ended, it will
drift
on
forever.
You
should
stipulate
a
time
for
the
end
of
the
meeting
so
that
everyone knows, and
everyone can plan the rest of their day with
confidence.
It is wise to
make this expectation known to everyone involved
well in advance and to
remind
them
at
the
beginning
of
the
meeting.
There
is
often
a
tendency
to
view
meetings
as a little relaxation since no one person has to
be active throughout. You
can
redress
this
view
by
stressing
the
time-scale
and
thus
forcing
the
pace
of
the
discussion:
If
some
unexpected
point
arises
during
the
meeting
then
realize
that
since
it
is
unexpected: 1)
you might not
have the right people present, 2) those there may
not
have the necessary information, and
3) a little thought might save a lot of
discussion.
If the new discussion looks
likely to be more than a few moments, stop it and
deal
with the agreed agenda. The new
topic should then be dealt with at another
meeting.
Agenda
The purpose of an agenda is
to inform
participants
of the subject
of the
meeting in
advance,
and
to
structure
the
discussion
at
the
meeting
itself.
To
inform
people
beforehand, and to solicit ideas, you
should circulate a draft agenda and ask for notice
of
any
other
business.
Still
before
the
meeting,
you
should
then
send
the
revised
agenda
with
enough
time
for
people
to
prepare
their
contributions.
If
you
know
in
advance
that
a
particular
participant
either
needs
information
or
will
be
providing
information, then
make this
explicitly
clear
so that there is no confusion.
The
agenda
states
the
purpose
of
each
section
of
the
meeting.
There
will
be
an
outcome
from
each
section.
If
that
outcome
is
so
complex
that
it
can
not
be
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