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Over the past few
decades, our
society’s traditional beliefs
and
assumptions
concerning
the
institution
of
marriage
have
come
under attack. Many
people believe that marriage is “only a piece
of
paper”
anyway
,
and
that
it
represents
an
outdated
social
institution that is
no
longer
relevant or
necessary
for regulating
intimate
relationships.
Some
have
come
to
see
it
as
merely
an
optional
lifestyle
choice
—
one
that
constitutes
a
potential
threat
to
individual
fulfillment,
autonomy, independence
and
growth, and
a serious
handicap
for
women,
damaging
their
health,
self-esteem
and
severely limiting their
career
prospects. Still
others
believe that
promoting marriage and marital
obligations only puts women at
risk for
abuse and violence.
Those
who can read the signs of cultural change suggest
that our
generation is on the verge of
becoming a post-marriage culture!
There
are
a
growing
number
of
sociologists
and
family
researchers who
strongly contradict these
assertions
and
myths.
They
claim
that
although
marriage
as
an
institution
has
been
weakened
by
widespread
social
change,
there
is
a
compelling
argument to be
made for marriage and its
benefits to
both
men
and
women.
Believers
include
Linda
Waite
and
Maggie
Gallagher,
who,
in
their
recent
publication
The
Case
for
Marriage,
systematically
outline
a
wide
range
of
scientific
research
that
provides
clear
evidence
that
being
married
is
much
better
for
you
physically,
emotionally,
economically, financially, sexually and
spiritually.
They show
how
marriage isn’t just
a
private
relationship,
but a
social
reality
that
enhances
and
enriches
people’s
lives
and
creates
a shared sense of meaning and purpose that
provides the
foundation
for
emotional
and
spiritual
health.
They
show
how
through
marriage
and
family,
we
each
develop
a
sense
of
belonging
and
fulfillment
that
fulfils
our
basic
need
for
love,
trust,
loyalty,
fidelity
,
long-
term
commitment
and
mutual
support.
It has clear
economic
benefits for
people with
access to
steady
jobs
and
stable
homes.
People
who
are
married
have
more
money,
and
their
money
goes
further.
They
tend
to
specialize,
exchange,
and
share
roles
and
functions
in
ways
that
generate
higher earnings,
encourage savings, help their partner to restrain
from
impulse
spending,
and
generally
leave
the
family
financially
better
off.
Clearly,
married
couples
benefit
from
economies
of
scale,
where
two
people
live
more
cheaply
than
one.
Being
in
a
two-parent
family
provides
them
with
a
better
standard of living and gives them a
greater sense of supervision
and
protection.
It
also
gives them twice
as
many
contact
hours
with parents
and
provides role models
who show them
how to
relate effectively to
others. Children from intact families tend to
perform
better in
school, are more likely to stay out of
trouble,
are
less
likely
to
be
abused
in
their
own
home,
and
are
less
likely
to get pregnant out of wedlock.
On
the
other
hand,
children
who
come
from
divorced
homes
tend
to
be
worse
off
educationally,
financially
and
psychologically
.
They
are
frequently
subject
to
much
greater
health
risks
and
frequently
that
show
signs
of
anxiety,
depression,
intense
anger,
disruptive
behavior,
and
other
forms
of emotional distress for many years
after the family has broken
up.
Kids
who
live
with
unhappy
or
highly
confliction
parents
are
still
better off than kids who live with a divorced
parent. While
this idea sounds
illogical and quite difficult to accept,
especially
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