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TED Speech:
滚蛋吧,小情绪
演讲思路
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通过讲述孤独、失败、被拒对人的影响,呼吁人们关注心理健康
1.
首先讲述儿童生活时期自己对较大饼干的偏爱,
从而引出人们关注身体健康多于心理健康
的偏爱,并以一个小男孩摔倒擦伤
后的处理措施加以验证。
2.
以读博
期间一次跟哥哥打电话的经历,讲述孤独使人误认为周围人不关心自己,从而不愿
主动与
他们交流。
3.
以幼儿园小朋友玩玩
具的例子讲述一次失败后,若人们相信自己无法成功,便容易放弃尝
试,从而永远无法成
功。
4.
以自己和朋友驾车被警察拦
截的例子论证:人一旦形成某个想法便难以改变。
5.
以一个女同事离婚后初次约会被拒后内心变化,
讲述人们当自尊受挫后
更倾向于自我损害
自尊。
6.
以哥哥肿瘤治疗期间我的心态变化,
讲述人们遇到不好的事情时能够通
过转移注意力的方
式走出阴影。
7.
描绘了对人人心理健康世界美好的憧憬,呼吁大家关注心理健康,并提供了若干小建议。
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Take action when you lonely
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Change your
responses to failure
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Protect your self-esteem
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Battle negative
thinking
Screw You Small Mood
I
grew
up
with
my
identical
twin,
who
was
an
incredibly
loving
brother. Now one
thing about being a twin is it makes you an expert
at
spotting
favoritism.
If
his
cookie
was
even
slightly
bigger
than
my
cookie, I had questions.
And
clearly, I wasn
’
t starving.
When I became a
psychologist, I began
to notice
favoritism of a different
kind
. And that
is
how much more we value the body than we
do the mind
. I spent 9
years
at
university
earning
my
doctorate
in
psychology
and
I
can
’
t
tell
you
how
many
people
look
at
my
business
card
and
say
“
Oh,
a
psychologist, so not a
real doctor
”
as if it should
say that on my card. This
favoritism we
show the body over the mind, I see it everywhere.
I
recently
was
at
a
friend
’
s
house
and
their
5-year-old
boy
was
getting ready for bed.
He was stand on a stool by the sink brushing his
teeth, when he slipped, and scratched
his leg on the stool when he fell. He
cried
for
a
minute, but then
he
got
back up, got back on
the stool,
and
reached out for a box of Band-Aids to
put one on his cut. Now, this kid
could
barely tie his shoelaces, but he knew you have to
cover a cut, so it
doesn
’
t become
infected, and you have to care for your teeth by
brushing
them twice a day.
We
all
know
how
to
maintain
our
physical
hygiene
and
how
to
practice dental hygiene,
right? We
’
ve known it since
we were 5 years old.
But what do we
know about maintaining our psychological health?
Well,
nothing.
What
do
we
teach
our
children
about
emotional
hygiene?
Nothing. How is it
we spend more taking care of our teeth than we do
our
minds? Why is it our physical
health is so much more important than our
psychological health?
You know, we sustain psychological
injuries even more often we do
physical
ones, injuries like failure or rejection or
loneliness. And they can
also
get
worse
if
we
ignore
them
and
they
can
impact
our
lives
in
dramatic
ways.
And
yet,
even
though
there
are
scientifically
proven
techniques we could use to treat these
kinds of psychological injuries. We
don
’
t. It
doesn
’
t even occur to us
that we should.
“
Oh, you are
feeling
depressed.
Just
shake
it
off,
it
’
s
all
in
your
head.
”
Can
you
imagine
saying that to someone with a broken
leg
“
Oh, walk it
off; it
’
s all in
your
legs
”
.
It
’
s
time
we
closed
the
gap
between
our
physical
and
psychological health.
It
’
s time we made them more
equal, more like
twins.
Speaking of which, my brother is also a
he isn
’
t a
real
doctor,
ether.
We
didn
’
t
study
together,
though.
In
fact,
the
hardest
thing
I
’
ve ever done in my life is
move across the Atlantic to New York
City to get my doctorate in psychology.
We were apart then for the first
time
in our lives, and the separation was brutal for
both of us. But while
he remained among
family and friends, I was alone in a new country.
We
missed
each
other
terribly,
but
the
international
phone
calls were
really
expensive then, and we could only
afford to speak for 5 minutes a week.
When
our
birthday
rolled
around,
and
it
was
the
first
we
wouldn
’
t
be
spending together. We
decided to splurge, at that week we would talk for
10 minutes. I spent the morning pacing
around the room, waiting him to
call,
and waiting and waiting, but the phone
didn
’
t ring. Given the time
difference, I
assumed
“
OK,
he
’
s out with friends, he
will call later.
”
,
there were no cellphones then. But he
didn
’
t. And I began to
realize that
after being away for over
ten months he no longer missed me the way I
missed him. I knew he would call in the
morning, but that night was one
of the
saddest and longest nights of my life. I woke up
the next morning, I
glanced
at
the
phone,
and
I
realized
I
had
kicked
it
off
the
hoof
when
pacing
the day before. I stumbled off the bed. I put the
phone back on the
receiver, and it rang
a second later, and it was my brother, and, boy,
was
he pissed. It was saddest and
longest night of his life as I tried
to explain to what happened, but he
said
“
I
don
’
t understand, if you saw
I
wasn
’
t
calling
you
why
didn
’
t
you
just
pick
up
the
phone
and
call
me.
”
He
was didn
’
t I call him? I
didn
’
t have an answer then,
but I do today. And
it
’
s a simple one:
Loneliness
.
Loneliness creates a
deep
psychological
wound,
one
that
distorts
our
perceptions
and
scrambles our thinking.
It makes us believe that those around us care
much
less
than
they
actually
do.
It
makes
up
afraid
to
reach
out
because
why
set
yourself
up
for
rejection
and
headache
and
when
your
heart
is
already
aching
more
than
you
can
stand.
I
was
in
the
grips of real loneliness
back then. I was surrounded by people all day, so
it never occurred to me. But loneliness
is defined purely subjectively. It
depends solely on whether you feel
emotionally or socially disconnected
from those around you. And I did.
There
’
s
a
lot
of
research
on
loneliness
and
all
of
it
is
horrifying.
Loneliness
won
’
t
just
make
you
miserable,
it
will
kill
you
.
I
’
m
not
kidding. Chronic
loneliness increases your likelihood of an early
death by
14
percent.
Loneliness
causes
high
blood
pressure,high
cholesterol.
It
even
suppress
the
functioning
of
your
immune
system,
making
you
vulnerable
to
all
kinds of
illnesses
and diseases.
In
fact,
scientists
have
included that taken together, chronic
loneliness poses as significant a risk
for
your
long-
term
health
and
longevity
as
cigarette
smoking.
Now
cigarette
packs
come
with
warnings
“
this
may
kill
you
”
,
but
loneliness
doesn
’
t
. And
that
’
s why
it
’
s so important
we prioritize our
psychological health
that we practice emotional hygiene.
Because
you
can
’
t
treat
a
psychological
wound
if
you
don
’
t
even
know
you
’
re
injured
.
Loneliness is not the only
psychological wound that distorts our
perceptions and misleads us. Failure
does that as well.
I once visited a
day-care center, where I saw three
toddlers play with identical plastic toys.
You
had
to
slide
the
red
button
and
a
cute
doggie
would
pop
out.
One
little girl tried pulling the purple
button then pushing it, and then she just
sat back and look at the box, with her
lower lips trembling. The little boy
next
to
her
watched
this
happen,
then
turned
to
his
box
and
burst
into
tears
without
even
touching
it.
Meanwhile,
another
little
girl
tried
everything
she
could
think
of
until
she
slid
the
red
button
,
the
cute
doggie popped out and she squealed with
delight. So three toddlers with
identical plastic toys but with very
different reactions to failure. The first
two toddlers were perfectly capable of
sliding a red button, the only thing
prevented
them
from
succeeding
was
that
their
mind
tricked
them
into
believing they could
not.
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