临终前最后悔的五件事(中英文对照版)

临终前最后悔的五件事（中英文对照版）

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最近有一篇文章在

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上频频被转，名叫

“Nu rse reveals the top 5 regrets

people make on their deathbed”

。它的原文是一名叫

Bronnie Ware

的护士写的。

Bronnie

Ware

专门照顾那些临终病人，所以有机会听到很多人临终前说出他们一生裡最后悔 的事。

她作了一个概括，有

5

件事是大 多数人最后悔的。

很好奇为什麽这麽多人转载它，

因为这是一种你永远无法提前经历的事吧。

你不会时

常面对别人的死亡，你更不怎麽时常有机会听到一个临终前的人告诉你他最后悔 的事是什

麽。而即便你听到，你又会觉得自己来日方长。我们似乎永远无法感同身受；也 许，只有我

们自己的生命到了尽头时，我们才会意识到自己究竟错过了什麽，最后悔什麽 。

我最近收到不同朋友发来的中英文不同版本，现综合如下转 发与大家共享。

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Top Five Regrets

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By Bronnie Ware

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to

die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to

twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to

underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each

experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial

and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed

though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,

common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected

of me

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over

and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most

people have had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it

was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honor at

least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is

too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

我希望當初我有勇氣過自己真正想要的生活，而不是別人希望 我過的生活。

這是所有後悔的事中最常聽到的。

心 理學上有個理論，

較之那些我們做過的事，

人們後悔的往往是那 些沒做的事。

所以當人們

在生命盡頭往回看時，往往會發現有好 多夢想應該實現，

卻沒有實現。

你的生活方式、

你的

工作、

你的感情、你的伴侶，其實我們多少人過著 的是別人希望你過的生活，而不是自己真

正想要的生活

——

又可能，一直以來你把別人希望你過的生活當作是你想要的生活。

當你疾病纏身時，

才發現其實自己應該而且可以放下很多顧慮追 求你要的生活，

似乎已經晚

了一點。

2. I wish I didn't work so hard

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and

their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an

older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I

nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work

existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is

possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your

life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your

new lifestyle.