栩栩如生英文4 Love and Loving Relationships

2021年1月21日发(作者：gladder)
高等学校研究生英语综合教程（上）
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Love and Loving Relationships




















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Love----as both an emotion and a behavior----is essential for human survival. The family is
usually our earliest and most important source of love and emotional support. Babies and
children
deprived
of
love
have
been
known
to
develop
a
wide
variety
of
problems----for
example,
depression,
headaches,
physiological
impairments,
and
neurotic
and
psychosomatic difficulties----that sometimes last a lifetime. In contrast, infants who are loved
and cuddled typically gain more weight, cry less, and smile more. By five years of age, they
have been found to have significantly higher IQs and to score higher on language tests.
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Much research shows that the quality of care infants receive affects how they later get along
with
friends,
how
well
they
do
in
school,
how
they
react
to
new
and
possibly
stressful
situations,
and
how
they
form
and
maintain
loving
relationships
as
adults.
It
is
for
these
reasons that people's early intimate relationships within their family of origin are so critical.
Children
who
are
raised
in
impersonal
environments
(orphanage,
some
foster
homes,
or
unloving families) show emotional and social underdevelopment, language and motor skills
retardation, and mental health problems.
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Love
for
oneself,
or
self-love,
is
also
essential
for
our
social
and
emotional
development.
Actress Mae West once said,
such
a
statement
may
seem
self-centered,
it's
actually
quite
insightful.
Social
scientists
高等学校研究生英语综合教程（上）
-- Unit 4





































主编：熊海虹

describe self-love as an important basis for self-esteem. Among other things, people who like
themselves
are
more
open
to
criticism
and
less
demanding
of
others.
Fromm
(1956)
saw
self-love as a necessary prerequisite for loving others. People who don't like themselves may
not be able to return love but may constantly seek love relationships to bolster their own poor
self- images. But just what is love? What brings people together?
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Love
is
an
elusive
concept.
We
have
all
experienced
love
and
feel
we
know
what
it
is;
however,
when
asked
what
love
is,
people
give
a
variety
of
answers.
According
to
a
nine- year-old boy, for example,
life.
What
we
mean
by
love
depends
on
whether
we
are
talking
about
love
for
family
members, friends, or lovers. Love has been a source of inspiration, wry witticisms, and even
political action for many centuries.
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Love has many dimensions. It can be romantic, exciting, obsessive, and irrational. It can also
be platonic, calming, altruistic, and sensible. Many researchers feel that love defies a single
definition because it varies in degree and intensity and across social contexts. At the very
least, three elements are necessary for a loving relationship: (1) a willingness to please and
accommodate
the
other
person,
even
if
this
involves
compromise
and
sacrifice;
(2)
an
acceptance of the other person's faults and shortcomings; and (3) as much concern about
the
loved
one's
welfare
as
one's
own.
And,
people
who
say
they
are

love
emphasize
caring, intimacy, and commitment.
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